First off. Whoever you are, you are a fucking asshole. Rapist should not be in quotation marks. The person involved was raped, end of story. You do not have any fucking right to question whether or not their experience was rape.
The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.
This is the legal definition of rape in the U.S. Here is the definition of consent:
Consent is an act of reason and deliberation. A person who possesses and exercises sufficient mental capacity to make an intelligent decision demonstrates consent by performing an act recommended by another. Consent assumes a physical power to act and a reflective, determined, and unencumbered exertion of these powers. It is an act unaffected by Fraud, duress, or sometimes even mistake when these factors are not the reason for the consent. Consent is implied in every agreement.
In the context of rape, submission due to apprehension or terror is not real consent.
If a person says yes, or doesn’t say no, because they are afraid, are not in a safe enough environment to do so, feel obligated or as if they “owe” someone sexual gratification, and any number of other situations where the person does not want a sexual act to be performed then it is RAPE.
Consent is also never assumed, and it isn’t always continuous, meaning that people have the capability and freedom to change their mind. Consent needs to be given throughout the entire sexual encounter, from beginning to end. Consent in the beginning isn’t always consent for everything that happens afterward. If your partner says yes, but they stop responding enthusiastically or something seems off, then the only appropriate thing to do is stop and talk about it. Someone who cares about their partner pays attention to their reactions the whole time. A rapist gets a primary “yes” and continues regardless of how their partner’s feelings change during the encounter.
The person clearly stated that they wanted to stop but was too scared to say anything. It doesn’t matter if they said yes at the beginning, they wanted it to stop, and it didn’t. That is rape, by both the legal definition and the definition we use here. You doubting that person’s experience is not just incredibly harmful to the survivor, and any other survivors who have had similar experiences. You just excused their rapists (who should’ve been checking in regularly for consent anyway, but weren’t…) and told them that their experiences don’t count, which is completely and utterly wrong, and absolutely disgusting. This is a place survivors come to for help and understanding. We all get enough people like you in our lives, people who question us, make us feel more unsafe than we already do, who invalidate and humiliate us. We don’t need or want you invading our safe places too. Stay the fuck away from here.
It doesn’t take a genius to know whether or not someone wants to have sex with you so no don’t you dare try saying “they’re not a mindreader” you don’t have to be a mind reader to be a decent human being and pick up on body language.
Crying wasn’t enough cause I said yes shakily prior cause I was terrified… whatever you are fucked in the head.